So you’re cis? Here’s why your pronouns matter

When a cisgender person chooses to display their pronouns, many people ask, “Why?” The undertone of that question is, “Isn’t it obvious what pronoun you identify with?” And that’s what makes it all the more important for cisgender people to share. Those in dominant positions of society – those with platforms, privilege and/or power – have the ability (I would also argue the responsibility) to normalise behaviours that prioritise inclusivity and dignity for everyone.

Is it possible just to ‘switch off’?

Let’s be honest: “switch off” is a misleading phrase. There is no switch that would cause us not to keep thinking about what’s on our mind. That is why people often remark that the first few days of a holiday do not really feel like a holiday at all. We cannot turn concentration or care on and off.

Reflecting

Do I trust everyone and hang all hope on just remembering when we get to July and rip into planning? Is “just remembering” a sound business strategy, ever?

“It”

Not the movie. A thing. THE thing. A place, an achievement, a title, a certain amount of money, an experience. That thing we desperately want. The desire to be in the next place.

Safety

We can learn how to make a space safe. We can practise making a space safe. This takes time and trust and buy-in from everyone. It also takes someone to take the first step.

The small things rarely are

These lines sit in the back pocket of my diary, and I pull them out when I need some grounding. When the achievement means more than who I am becoming as I work towards the goal. When I get a head full of self-importance and how I treat those around me suffers.